There is a very popular phrase, I may have even said it at one time.
Time heals all wounds.
But does it really?
I don’t think so. Time alone does not do anything. What you do with that time, is what determines if a wound is healed.
Here is an example to prove my point.
A couple gets divorced after being married for 25 years.
Over the next five years, they do very different things.
The husband goes to counseling and even does some recovery work with a program called Divorce Care. He builds up a group of friends so that when life gets hard, he knows that he had a support team of people that care about him.
The wife doesn’t do any of those things and sits at home saying to herself, “It’s not supposed to be like this”.
Which one of these people do you think experienced healing over that 5 year time period?
Time doesn’t heal all wounds.
What you do with that time gives you the ability to heal all wounds.
Still not sure you believe me? Here is another example.
Two women have one of their children murdered. Heartbreaking for sure. Their lives will NEVER be the same.
Over the next ten years, they do very different things.
One woman takes time to grieve and reach out to people that love her. She considered counseling but decided that she wanted to do a Grief Share program instead. She continued to pray to God, which was already part of her life. Even though she was angry and sad, sometimes her prayers reflected that she did everything she could to stay connected to her heavenly Father. She also stayed connected with her friends. There were days that she wanted to curl up in bed and isolate herself from the world. On occasion, she’d do just that. But she knew the danger of staying there too long and would make sure that she didn’t allow that to go on too long. She then found a group of women that had also dealt with a similar loss. She began to share her story. It hurt at first, bringing up all the memories of her son. Over time though, she found that this may have been the very thing she was called to do. Her son dying was truly awful. And somehow God was using her story to help others.
The other woman sat at home by herself and thought, “Why did my son have to die”?
Which of these women do you think experienced any healing during that 10 years?
My challenge to you and to me is that when life happens, and it will happen, to decide if you want to take the action required to allow time to heal that wound or sit around doing nothing expecting that time alone will heal the wound.
Is there something you want to heal from now? Something that recently happened or something that you have never dealt with? I love the question: What is one thing you can do right now to get you closer to what you want? You don’t have to do it all today, just one thing. Then tomorrow or the next day, do one thing more. If you continue focusing on the one thing that you can do next before you know it you have made so much progress and you will wonder how it happened. One thing at a time, that’s how it happens.
Coach Dale
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