March 17, 2021

The Speed of Trust

Over the last few weeks I have been sharing some thoughts about trust.

So far, I have talked about the Trust Spectrum and Predictive Trust v Vulnerable Trust. 

This week I want to talk about something called the “speed of trust”. I will be referring to a wonderful book called: The SPEED of Trust: The One Thing that Changes Everything - The One Thing that Changes Everything, by Stephen M.R. Covey.

The definition of trust that he uses is:

“Simply put, trust means confidence. The opposite of trust—distrust—is suspicion. When you trust people, you have confidence in them—in their integrity and in their abilities. When you distrust people, you are suspicious of them—of their integrity, their agenda, their capabilities, or their track record. It’s that simple. We have all had experiences that validate the difference between relationships that are built on trust and those that are not. These experiences clearly tell us the difference is not small; it is dramatic.”

-- Stephen M.R. Covey, The Speed of Trust

One of my favorite parts of the above quote is the last sentence.  The difference is not small, it is dramatic.

If you think back on your life I am sure you can quickly think of a person that  you had confidence in, also known as trust. How did that relationship feel to you? How was it different from others that you didn’t have that trust with?

On the other hand, I am also sure that you can think of someone that you didn’t trust. You questioned their motives. You questioned their integrity. How did those relationships feel? Very different, I am sure.

When people think about trust many people think about someone's character. However, Stephen M.R. Covey says that he believes that it is character AND competency. I agree with him.

If you believe in someone’s character but don’t believe that they can “get the job done”, do you really trust them to get the job done? Doubtful.

“Trust is a function of two things: character and competence.

Character includes your integrity, your motive, your intent with people.

Competence includes your capabilities, your skills, your results, your track record.

And both are vital.”

-- Stephen M.R. Covey, The Speed of Trust

When thinking of a relationship you have with someone and you don’t have the trust you would like, I would suggest considering if they are competent in addition to having good character.

If you remember in the Trust Spectrum blog I mentioned how trust really begins with trusting God, then yourself, then others.

I hope you took some time to ponder that and dig in a little bit to determine if you really do trust God, because without that piece in place, I believe that you won’t be able to trust yourself or others.

If you do trust God, then the next question is: do you trust yourself? If so, why? If not, why? Are you of good character? Are you competent?

Basically, I am asking this, are you trustworthy? If not, what one thing can you do today to begin to be trustworthy? Keeping your word to yourself is as important as keeping your word to others. If you have been working on improving an area of your life and have set S.M.A.R.T. goals, like we talked about a few weeks ago, have you kept your word around those? If not, recommit and continue making the next right choice.

When you keep your word to yourself, I believe you will have a higher likelihood of keeping your word to others which will make you more trustworthy.

Coach Dale

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