Last week I laid the groundwork for what forgiveness is and what it is not. If you missed that blog, you can read it here.
The big takeaway from this blog post, prayerfully, is that forgiveness is for YOU, not them. In many cases when you are holding on to unforgiveness over a situation, the person that harmed you has no idea that they hurt you. You are holding on to something that is hurting you, causing you much pain and when you are finally able to forgive you are able to experience a beautiful freedom.
I have heard it said that holding on to a hurt is like drinking poison and expecting the person that hurt you to die.
We are currently in a blog series talking about the three main relationships we have:
When we are talking about forgiveness, I want to make sure that we apply it to each of those 3 relationships.
First, let’s talk about God and forgiveness. To be precise, I’m talking specifically about God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit as described in the Bible. As I am writing this part, I am literally smiling. I mean really, Jesus and forgiveness go hand in hand. If you ask for forgiveness, He will gladly give it to you. Have you accepted His forgiveness? If so, I pray that you are able to more freely forgive when needed. If not, I pray that you know that the triune God loves you and wants a relationship with you. (And if you’d like to know more about this kind of relationship, please reach out to someone who has this kind of relationship -- if you don’t know anyone, reach out to me.)
Second on the list is your true self. This one is typically the most difficult to do. We almost always hold ourselves to a higher standard than we do anyone else. What would happen if you gave yourself that grace that you so freely give others? What if you forgave yourself? Truly? How would that feel? Don’t let this just pass by. Please, take a moment to really think about it. Is there anything that you need to forgive yourself for?
Last but not least on the list is others. In my experience, if someone is sorry I don’t have a hard time forgiving them. What happens when they aren’t sorry? You are left holding a big bag of heavy “stuff” that you weren’t meant to carry. What would it do for your heart to lay it down? Remember, forgiveness is about YOU, not them.
I have found several articles online that can expand more on the topic of forgiveness.
Earlier I mentioned that forgiving ourselves can be the most difficult thing. Here is an article that will give you a process for helping you do that a little bit better.
One last article for today, it has a 7 step forgiveness process. Knowing how to forgive effectively can really improve your relationships.
Last week I asked you to spend some time praying about who God might guide you to forgive. This week, I am going to ask you to take action on how God prompted you. You can do it. I know you can. Ask God to guide you, and He will.
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