If you have been following my blog for awhile you know that I have a concept I reference often called the Relationship Bullseye, https://coachdale.com/2021/02/11/relationship-bullseye/.
Over the last few weeks I have been sharing tools that can help you have the best relationship possible with God, yourself and others.
Today, I want to bring the relationship bullseye into focus and how it ties to using these tools.
We need to make sure that we understand the concept of the closer you are to the core of the bullseye the more significant the relationship. With this understanding, my first question to you is:
Where are YOU on your own relationship bullseye? What do you need to do to make sure you are in the core? Do you need to be more generous towards yourself? Give yourself more grace?
2nd question, where is God on your relationship bullseye? This is an important question because as a Christian if God isn't in the center of your life (relationship bullseye) I believe that your walk will not be what it could be.
Once you establish that you and God are at your core, then you can talk about where the other people in your life are on the relationship bullseye.
The closer someone is to your core, the easier it should be to give and receive grace, gratitude and generosity. I use the word should very purposefully here. This is not to put any sort of guilt trip on you, but if you are finding it hard to give and receive grace, gratitude, and generosity with your core, then you have some disconnect that needs to be examined.
As we go forward into tools that are more active, like services, more demanding of your time/energy/resources it's very good to keep the relationship circles in mind and make sure that you are taking that into consideration.
Using some of these tools as a gauge can help you determine if someone is in the right part of your relationship bullseye, or if they need to be moved. Example, if someone is very generous with their time it may be worth considering moving them a circle closer to the core. Conversely, if they are not generous with their time, you may want to move them away from the core.
the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one's own health.
"autonomy in self-care and insulin administration"
the practice of taking an active role in protecting one's own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
"expressing oneself is an essential form of self-care"
I have found that it is hard for many of us to engage in what most people call “self-care”. I believe that self-care is very important and a good indicator of self-love. To fully operate in who God created us to be, we have to take care of ourselves. Next week, I am going to talk about service as a way of connecting with God, self and others. To do that, we have to make sure to take care of ourselves 1st.
regard for one's own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).
What is one thing you can do this week to help you fill your own cup. Remember, it's better to pour from the overflow of our life rather than trying to give something from our own cup that needs to be filled.
If while reading this you realized that God is not in the center of your relationship bullseye, I would encourage you to take a moment (or as long as it takes) to get right with him. He loves you. He really, really loves you. Accept that and then walk in the light of who he created you to be. If you struggle in this area, reach out to someone close to you (in the inner circles of your bullseye) and share this with them. And you are always welcome to reach out to me, drop me an email and let’s set up a time to talk.
Schedule a “get to know each other” Zoom meeting!
Playlists — music can change your mood, enjoy some of the songs that encourage me.
The Identity Key — you can purchase my book on Amazon.