Trust. It is important, very important.
Over the last 6 weeks I have been sharing information with you about trust. If you missed any of the last 6 blogs, please consider going back to get fully caught up.
This week, I wanted to do a wrap up and talk about what I consider to be the most important takeaways from each of the 6 blogs.
Blog #1 - Trust
Understanding that trusting God is a critical 1st step of any trusting relationship is an important thing to keep in mind. The Bible tells us:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6
I believe when we start off by trusting God, it will allow us to trust ourselves and others.
No matter the type of relationship, all bonds are built on trust. Without it you have nothing. This applies to teamwork specifically.
Blog #2 - The Trust Spectrum
Everyone has a certain default of how much they trust others. Some people can trust too much and some don’t trust enough.
Finding the balance will be important. Understanding where you are on the trust spectrum is important too, that way you can adjust as needed. Also, remember that everyone has their own trust spectrum so just because you are in a healthy place on the spectrum doesn’t mean others are.
Blog #3 - Predictive Trust v Vulnerable Trust
An easy way to think of predictive trust is to have it be something you know because of a pattern or habit you have “seen” in someone. Vulnerable trust on the other hand takes a risk. A risk of telling someone something about yourself that could be used against you or make you seem to be “less-than” or “weak”.
Predictive trust is a good thing but vulnerable trust is what can really make the difference in a relationship. Personal or professional relationships can be improved with real vulnerable trust. If you are building a team, you must decide if you are going to take a risk and be vulnerable with your team or not.
Blog #4 - Speed of Trust
In this blog I talked about character and competence as both being important. When you have both of them, you are able to build trust faster. This makes sense because to trust them you need to believe that they can do what they say (competence) and the integrity to do what they say they will do (character).
If you believe in someone’s character but don’t believe that they can “get the job done”, do you really trust them to get the job done? Doubtful.
“Trust is a function of two things: character and competence. Character includes your integrity, your motive, your intent with people. Competence includes your capabilities, your skills, your results, your track record. And both are vital.”
-- Stephen M.R. Covey, The Speed of Trust
Blog #5 - Trust and the Relationship Bullseye
The closer they are to the center of the bullseye the more trust you should have with them, and them with you. Also, if trust is broken and they are closer to the center you should want to rebuild trust fast and it should be easier to rebuild.
I have included the steps to rebuilding trust on this blog.
Blog #6 - Rebuilding Broken Trust
It really is possible to rebuild trust. Many people say that “I trust, or I don’t”.
Personally, I don’t believe that it is black and white. There are shades of grey. You have to take into account many things:
- Where are you (and where are they) on the trust spectrum?
- Where are they on your relationship bullseye?
- Should they be in a different circle on the relationship bullseye?
- If trust is broken, is it worthwhile to rebuild the trust, move them to a different circle or remove them completely?
- Have you been building predictive or vulnerable trust?
Building trust is something that has many layers. Each layer seems independent from the others but in reality they are all tied together.
Some people have said, it only takes an instance to break trust and years to rebuild, there are many factors as to if that is really true or not. As mentioned above, those things matter and can determine if trust can be rebuilt quickly, or not at all. If you do want to rebuild it - there are steps to rebuild it fast.
What is your big take-away from this blog series? What is one thing you will personally do to build better trust with God, yourself and others?
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